Welcome! Thanks so much for taking this journey with me! We’re going to be going through 7 days of empowerment exercises that will help us love ourselves more this week and i’m soooo stoked to share this with you all!
Today, on day one we’re going to focus on the bullies, the naysayers…these are people IN your life and also YOU. We’ve all got at least one bully- could be an external bully or an internal bully, i’m going to go over both with you so you can decide which kind of bully YOU have!
External bully: These are the insecure people. They thrive on bringing others down…maybe they’re narcissists or maybe they just don’t think about what they say before they say it. Maybe they’ve spread a rumor about you or written a false bad review…maybe they troll you constantly. Whoever they are- they’re toxic. They’re anyone that takes space in your mind in a negative way.
Internal bully: Girl…this is you! YOU can sometimes be your own bully! This is that voice inside your head that tells you you’re not good enough for something or that you’re going to do it wrong. We ALL have this voice and it’s up to us to train it- this internal bully is ALSO toxic.
SO WHICH IS EASIER TO COMBAT? EXTERNAL OR INTERNAL BULLY?
Answer: They’re both easy to get rid of if you’re willing to put in the effort.
My husband’s father used to be this person for me (and i’ll be the first to admit that he sometimes gets to me still occasionally). He would put all of this effort into relationships other than his own family, he made no effort to get to know his son or his grandchildren and he was just this negative little nubbin in my head that was brought up constantly. One day I decided that i’d had enough- that if he didn’t want to make the effort WHY was I worrying so much? He made his choice and he made his bed so he had to lie in it, not me. I wrote him a very long message letting him know that I forgave him for everything that he’s ever said and done to my husband and my children and that was that. I sent it and never looked back. I freed myself from him and his bullshit. He was my external bully.
Internally, I would be the first person to be down on myself…you’re never going to get that right, Nicole. You’re useless. You’re too fat. It’s too much work for you. You’re not a great mother. You’re a horrible wife. These are all things I would tell myself over and over and I started to believe them. I learned however, that I could re-wire my brain and train it to love myself and be my own biggest fan. My life changed. I’m going to help you change YOURS!
TODAY’S TO DO:
Get out a piece of paper and on one side write out the negative things anyone has ever said about you/your business/your style/your personality/your size..etc Anything that has stuck with you, anything that still haunts you. On the other side of that page compliment yourself on that VERY thing. For example:
“Nicole, you need to eat less pasta” Nicole- I love your hourglass shape.
Now turn that paper over and write down the things you have said and thought about yourself and compliment yourself on those as well. This is the very first and easiest step to re-wire your brain!
THAT’S IT! Read that list over and over- any time you feel down read that right column- remind yourself that you’re your number 1 fan until the end.
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GOOD LUCK! If you’d like to share your lists with me or have any questions about the challenge please do not hesitate to email me! firstname.lastname@example.org! See you on Day 2!